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What we must remember divorced woman?
Do not sacrifice themselves to the child
No matter how dear to you baby, he is a separate being. To live with the feeling that you sacrifice themselves, is unacceptable. First, it greatly diminishes you as a person. And the child is important to grow next to an interesting person, whom he could respect and who would be proud of.
Secondly, in the sacrifice of the mother is always present some unconscious deceit: it implies “cost” of the child. In response to your sacrifices, your parent “service” it requires flawless obedience and following your will and vitally important issues, and in the details. It is fraught or explosion in adolescence or conflict around the upcoming marriage of a child, or deformity of his person, the lack of ability to strong-willed decisions.
Children “sacrificial” mothers and grow infantile, unable to create families of their own. It is unlikely you dream of such a fate for her darling baby.
So try as far as possible to live a full life, to please myself and others. Continue reading
The education of the child in a single-parent family requires a special approach. The vast majority of these families are without fathers, so-called “maternal family”, although in recent years began to occur such families, where there is no mother. To a huge regret, the number of single-parent families is growing a lot of progression. Most of these families are formed as a result of divorce, Pope m mom, the emergence of nebracnyj children, the death of a parent. In the latter case, the child with the death of, say, the Pope remains a memory. About him often say older, usually idealized, view photos. And a child, growing up without a dad, constantly feels as though his presence. Moreover, if the family grow and the older children.
Another thing, when my parents divorced. Here take effect pejorative characteristics of the parent, whether mom or dad. In the family, if you recall, always in a negative color. And the child develops a complex. If it’s a girl, it gets used in each of the male gender to only see the negative. Subconsciously her childhood produced such quality as the rejection of men. If it’s a boy, then it may affect low self-esteem, they say, I had a bad father, then, and I’m the same. Very serious child feels Continue reading
Divorce is experienced it is hard even for an adult. This is not a joke – because crumbling family. But many families facing divorce, have children. Perhaps in your family too is this a difficult change. How to prepare your child for divorce? What to do in order for this process was held for him in the least painful? How to help?
Unfortunately, he has to protect the child from psychological pain in a divorce you will not succeed. Divorce is the destruction of his world, he has to survive the loss of a parent (and the care of the family is perceived as a loss, no less!), to adapt to a new life in a single-parent family, possibly even to survive the move to another house or another city… If you have the mental condition of the child is important, before you begin divorce proceedings, you should consult with a child and family psychologist . The specialist will help you to prepare your child for a challenging stage in life.
Unfortunately, the time for reflection and preparation for the divorce is not at all. The circumstances are different, the causes of divorce. Often divorce falls on the head of the family members as snow on the head, and do not have time and desire. Very often parents are too absorbed in their own problems to pay attention to children. Sometimes are horrible for baby things – for example, Continue reading