The children are very upset about the divorce of the parents, for them the word “divorce” means the division of family and unknown changes in their habitual life. It is clear that parents are also not easy, but the kids…they’re not to blame for the fact that the parents did not find a common language.
No matter what age was your child, psychological trauma’t be avoided. You should make every effort to help the child during this period. Often parents are so busy section of property, litigation and insult each other that they just don’t have the time nor the energy. And the child feels is not needed and not important for the parents. And the phrase “I try for you”, in such cases, it sounds ridiculous.
In this difficult period need to pay more attention to the child, even more than usual. Often talk to him, ask about his life. Mom and dad have to show that divorce shall in no way affect their relationship that parents will also love the child even after a divorce, just now you will not live together.
Never allow yourself to vilify each other in front of the kids, and set the child against Continue reading
Although God is love, but in this commandment He says reverently. Respect – this is the highest form of love. You can love, but not to read, but there is no respect without love. Deference involves a deep respect and reverential gratitude. True reverence implies an appeal to “you”, it does not allow you to hurt people, raise your voice, especially raising your hand.
The opposite of respect is familiarity. Familiarity – it is sin that occurs at every step. When a person behaves with parents, leaders, managers familiarly, cheeky, arrogant, he loses grace. “Like the precious oil upon the head, flowing down on the beard, the beard Aaronic flowing on the border of his garment”, Psalm 132:2 . Firs flowing from the head, so when we put the parents on the same level or even below it are losing a great many of the blessings that could only be obtained through the chain of command.
God – Creator of the universe. Father, mother – creators of our lives. God gave them this status. God has entrusted to us, namely our parents, so they need to be as reverent, reverent, sacred, as God. If a person Continue reading
Some parents do not attach importance to the fears of children. It happens that parents stubbornly ignore the fear of a child or, even worse, ridiculed him, scolded, punished. But there comes a time and parents are forced to notice the fear of the child, because the consequences of fears become too obvious (aggression, sleep disturbance, confusion, neurosis). Only in this case to help a child is much more difficult.
Fear is based on the instinct of self-preservation, has a protective nature and is accompanied by certain physiological changes in higher nervous activity, which affects heart rate and respiration, blood pressure, the secretion of gastric juice.
In the most General form of the emotion of fear arises in response to a threatening stimulus. There are two threats that have universal and at the same time fatal in its outcome. It’s death and the collapse of values, in contrast to such concepts as life, health, assertiveness, personal and social well-being. But in addition to extreme expressions of fear always involves the experience of any real or imagined danger.
Understanding the dangers Continue reading