Some parents do not attach importance to the fears of children. It happens that parents stubbornly ignore the fear of a child or, even worse, ridiculed him, scolded, punished. But there comes a time and parents are forced to notice the fear of the child, because the consequences of fears become too obvious (aggression, sleep disturbance, confusion, neurosis). Only in this case to help a child is much more difficult.
Fear is based on the instinct of self-preservation, has a protective nature and is accompanied by certain physiological changes in higher nervous activity, which affects heart rate and respiration, blood pressure, the secretion of gastric juice.
In the most General form of the emotion of fear arises in response to a threatening stimulus. There are two threats that have universal and at the same time fatal in its outcome. It’s death and the collapse of values, in contrast to such concepts as life, health, assertiveness, personal and social well-being. But in addition to extreme expressions of fear always involves the experience of any real or imagined danger.
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But, unfortunately, there are some circumstances that lead me to encourage You to use this chance in life as possible.
What are these circumstances?
Computer for a child is a whole different world . A world that could easily replace him with the real world. Often this happens easily and quickly, because this illusory world much brighter and more dynamic than any reality. And it may very much:
1. First of all: a sense of control of events, a sense of ownership of reality.
Playing computer games, the child feels the center of the world, because all the events affected himself. And the better he gets, the more pleasure he feels. Virtual life is much more dynamic and interesting than real life. The child who has no real friends, interesting activities and events simply nothing to oppose this!
In real life, to get a feeling of satisfaction, and would have had to work hard and work on yourself. And often, experience, and an extremely painful feeling of disappointment and despair. Returning to reality from the virtual world, the child feels helpless in the face of pressing problems. He again wants to return to the sweet Continue reading
Modern children are called in different ways and all definitions are grounded.
For example: “Children of the new Millennium” – young beings with unusual psychic abilities; “Children of Light”- the world of children is different from the usual; “Gifted Children”- the level of development is above average (not to be confused with school assessments); in France unusual children, the current generation is called the “Teflon Children”, because to them do not adhere to the generally accepted stereotypes of behaviour; in America – “Indigo Children”. The last definition is becoming popular in our country. A lot of attempts to define the modern children, although the official term does not exist.
All children are born innocent and kind, every child is special. Professor, doctor of pedagogical Sciences N.In.Kuzmin (2002) believes that “a Healthy child is born with a lot of creative potential. In the process of family education, the learning potentials are not only implemented, but often are blocked or cambiocorsa under the influence of fear.” Children are born, each with its purpose. So the seed of an Apple tree will turn into an Apple tree, not orange and not in a pear tree.
The main task of adults is to help children grow, to reveal a natural talent. I.e. how to raise Continue reading