Some parents do not attach importance to the fears of children. It happens that parents stubbornly ignore the fear of a child or, even worse, ridiculed him, scolded, punished. But there comes a time and parents are forced to notice the fear of the child, because the consequences of fears become too obvious (aggression, sleep disturbance, confusion, neurosis). Only in this case to help a child is much more difficult.
Fear is based on the instinct of self-preservation, has a protective nature and is accompanied by certain physiological changes in higher nervous activity, which affects heart rate and respiration, blood pressure, the secretion of gastric juice.
In the most General form of the emotion of fear arises in response to a threatening stimulus. There are two threats that have universal and at the same time fatal in its outcome. It’s death and the collapse of values, in contrast to such concepts as life, health, assertiveness, personal and social well-being. But in addition to extreme expressions of fear always involves the experience of any real or imagined danger.
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Symphony of life.
Life is like a Symphony, and we each instrument playing its own unique role in this wonderful piece of music. No tool can play a melody written for the other. Each is important and necessary to achieve harmony.
If we? As tools, we are playing our tune, we do not agree with other tools, we create disharmony impede the harmonious fulfillment of worldly Symphony. If the instrument loses the notes on which to play, and forgets that he has to do it, then most likely he will be to play along with others.
But this game will be its unique party. He will not find true happiness and joy, singing parts written for other. If the instrument is upset, then any party he euphonic to do you can. The tool you need to do to set up for their party. Do you know your party? Do you keep her? Not whether you sing off-key?
Bird on branch.
Once tired, the bird landed on a branch. She enjoyed his safety and opened to her view. She sang and played with other birds. But before she could get used to this branch, to reliable support underfoot and security, as a strong wind blew and began to shake the branch from side to side with such force. That it seemed she might break. But the bird didn’t care because I knew two important truths. First, even if the branches and never will be, she will Continue reading
How much is written, much is said about the relationship between parents and children. And things are there. Many parents dissatisfied with their children, criticizing their actions and want to live life for them. In turn, the children silently hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for control and manipulation, scandals and reproaches.
And this situation has been continued for thousands of years and most likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.
Of course, there are a few happy families, where between parents and children prevails respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to refer to it is destructive families. Families that do harm to normal and the free development of personality.
So, what kinds of relationships do happen in families.
1. Parents are tyrants. Parents try to completely subjugate the will of the children. They control their every move, every action. Of course, this is covered with talk of love and care. But love does not control and is not overwhelming. True love believes and supports, demanding nothing in return. And how many parents tried to convince themselves and others that they wish the child well, they pursue only one goal Continue reading