Computer in the lives of children.
But, unfortunately, there are some circumstances that lead me to encourage You to use this chance in life as possible.
What are these circumstances?
Computer for a child is a whole different world . A world that could easily replace him with the real world. Often this happens easily and quickly, because this illusory world much brighter and more dynamic than any reality. And it may very much:
1. First of all: a sense of control of events, a sense of ownership of reality.
Playing computer games, the child feels the center of the world, because all the events affected himself. And the better he gets, the more pleasure he feels. Virtual life is much more dynamic and interesting than real life. The child who has no real friends, interesting activities and events simply nothing to oppose this!
In real life, to get a feeling of satisfaction, and would have had to work hard and work on yourself. And often, experience, and an extremely painful feeling of disappointment and despair. Returning to reality from the virtual world, the child feels helpless in the face of pressing problems. He again wants to return to the sweet illusion of omnipotence, quick and easy way to achieve the goal.
Besides, in the virtual life rules clear in advance, and mistakes are so easy to fix… But real life is full of uncertainty and anxiety.
In C. V. Zorin is written: “the Desire for computer game parasite that normal human development involves a commitment to the game, “play instinct” . But in computer games (unlike mobile or intellectual games with peers) only important result — points scored. Everything else is secondary and inconsequential. Moral principles become superfluous.
As a result, fictitious, illusory sense of independence begets dependence of the real (from the computer).
Yes, all this childish delusion and illusion. But knowing them, knowing their impact on the child, we become more aware and armed.
We are struggling with some technical device, but with a attractive and interesting for the child world. It is important to understand when choosing arguments in a conversation with a child, or considering alternative leisure. Let us remember that the struggle with addictions effective when efforts are focused not on the result and the cause of addiction .
2. Secondly: the feeling of complete security.
To communicate in social networks of the children is much easier than in reality. You can upload your best photos, do not interfere with the normal barriers of real communication: shyness, insecurity, poor speech. That is, the child feels no such pressure, because his “I” is expressed precisely as he wants. Besides, he can write and communicate as you wish, knowing that he won’t get in.
There is no need to understand the complexities of human nature and to foresee the consequences of their behavior.
Shooting on the screen of the enemy, you can feel quite comfortable and secure. Pity and compassion arises. They are suppressed by a feeling of power and self-importance.
Computer games has the strongest influence on the emotional sphere of the child, entering into his consciousness rigid stereotypes of behaviour. And then a sense of focus can be lost.
Children are naturally endowed with a special sensibility. They are much stronger than adults feel the aggression and injustice of the world. And they have nothing to defend against this. Therefore, if from the parents, the child does not feel support, warmth and care, he is more likely to escape in the computer security world.
Even we adults often tired from reality and perceived helplessness. Therefore, it is difficult to always remember to give the child a sense of security and support.
Often, themselves tired, pressed for children bad grades, load other “useful, educational” classes. and don’t give anything in return!
Then no wonder the child wants rather turn on the computer and to be in this illusory, bright world.
Frequent sitting at a computer most of the children leads to increased emotional excitability (blinking eyes, poor sleep, reduced or greatly increased appetite, poor concentration and impaired vision. Physiologists proved that restlessness, confusion and fatigue appear when the child is 14-Oh to minute computer game.
Despite the fact that computers and computer programs and games created by man, they lay in the consciousness of misconceptions and erroneous stereotypical responses .
For example, when faced in the game with a wall or rolling over in the car, the child feels no pain (as it would be in real life). Or killing in the game opponents, he does not feel empathy. In addition, the new level of the game, killed the enemy, as if nothing had happened, appears again.
To protect yourself or to defeat the enemy need only press the desired button. Clicked on them and moved on to another level of the game or easily started from the beginning.
But where the child will be able to find these buttons in reality?!
Hence, the reaction that is generated in a computer game, dangerous in real life. And the child can easily be confused reaction, outside, in the real world. When you need to brake urgently, the child will begin to frantically search for a non-existent button.
Recently one of the moms, whose husband was killed, has told how her son reacted to the Pope’s death. He reacted surprisingly calm, even indifferent. Accustomed daily to see death on the screen, children begin to relate to human death cold, with a bit of callousness. And it cannot be called courageous transference of grief. It’s just a symptom of burnout.
Don’t forget about good, useful side of computers . which is, if we get to properly use this tool.
In addition to entertainment programs, there are many educational computer programs that can greatly help the child and to facilitate its adaptation and learning in school. With a computer simply can even play chess that develops reaction time, memory, intelligence, ability to concentrate, teaches logic.
The trouble is that children do not yet know how to choose and evaluate, but simply absorb information. Therefore, our task is to help them with the choice of useful programs. It is important to try to make a child’s interest in the computer was originally not the consumer, and scientific, educational and practical.
And try to figure out exactly what is lacking is Your child in the world? What attracts the virtual world of it?
To make it easier, I will summarize the factors that reduce the child’s desire to spend time at the computer:
Eventful and real communion of life of the child;
A good relationship between parents and loving and relaxed attitude of parents towards the child;
Favorite activity (hobby);
Real friends and interesting acquaintances.
Frequent exposure to nature;
Frequent warm and open communication with parents.
Dear parents, if You don’t want the child formed a computer addiction, help him to find real true friends and something for everyone. Help him to feel their strength and capabilities. As well as realize their weaknesses and limitations. This is real life. Show the kids the real world, in all its diversity and intrinsic beauty. And more often they learn about it together!
How often do Your children live in a virtual space?
What helps You return them to the real world?
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